Eating the Frog

I wrote this facebook posting a couple years ago.. but the point is a valid reminder. A task at my job is to complete a daily newsletter.  I found the format to be challenging. Most of the content was simply cut and paste, but there was a bit of research for the original daily content. I found the content to be the frog on my plate..  I didnt enjoy this task at all.. but over time I have come to embrace it and make it my own.  I try to add humorous bits, or tie together different sections with a common theme.. in short I have used the exercise to become better. I now look forward to the task.

“Emotionally drained after a week of highs and lows, and physically exhausted after a late shift at work, I really didn’t want to wake up this morning. A master of procrastination, I dawdled as long as I could before heading out the door to the gym, and then on to my other errands. Arriving at the gym, my coach asked, (as he does before every work out) if there was anything he needed to know before we began. I whined.. I was tired, and stressed, and just knew I had nothing to give. But! I was there.. and lets get it over with!
Every task was an improvement.. I either moved more weight, or increased my reps. Simply.. I got better. Sometimes, when you think you are at your worst you do your best.
After the the Gym I delayed and dawdled some more.

I put off going to help Alice as long as I could. In her late 80’s and struggling to maintain her independence, she had  profound hearing loss and  could no longer hear well enough to use her phone. I dreaded telling her she had the model with the loudest volume, there was nothing more to be done, she might want to try a  captioning device.
After visiting with her for a while I realized she used an amplification device with headphones rather than hearing aids. That gave me the idea for her to leave in the headphones and put the device on the table next to the phone, and put that on speaker mode. Voila!!!! The combination of the two devices worked, for the first time in months Alice could enjoy a telephone conversation.. or call 911 even, in an emergency.
I dreaded that appointment all morning. The little nugget of wisdom here.. the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow… if you have a difficult task..get it over with. just do it.. or it hangs over you until you do. Eat the frog first.. When you have something distasteful on your plate eat it first. Then you can enjoy the rest of the meal.
By pushing on when we don’t think we have the strength we become more powerful. We become stronger. We get better.”

Be afrayedknot.

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So… who am I

Mostly, I agree with all of these statements. Or at least, most of the time. When someone gives you an unsolicited compliment embrace it, believe it.  #2 sounds pretty good in theory. Especially if the people in question aren’t exactly members of your fan club. In that case.. it’s none of your business. Sometimes it can be an epiphany to discover what other people think of you.

I panic a lot. It tends to zap the fun out of me.. Anxiety causes me to think too deeply at times and makes me very serious.It also makes me very timid.  But it’s not who I want to be.

Recognizing I wasn’t going to simply overcome my fears, so I could enjoy life, I  started enjoying life so I could overcome my fears. By doing the very thing that terrified me I learned the panic attack wasn’t going to kill me. It just felt like it would.

When the opportunity to attend a Polymer Clay workshop  with Christie Freisen, sponsored by WWW.BSueBoutiques.com, came up I was one of the first to register. Experience told me, if I let it go I would find a million reasons why I couldn’t do it. Heading to a place I’d never been before with a group of approximately 40 people I never met. Well. Omgosh, and now travel arrangements. Rental car. Hotel, Airline tickets.  Awww geeze.. rental car.  I hate driving a car I am unfamiliar with.  Okay, no rental. Maybe catch a ride with someone else from the airport and be beholden to a stranger. I mean, what if.   What IF whatever?  She needed to leave early and I was stranded. What if I couldn’t stand her driving and still had to get back in the car to go back? If there was any kind of concern at all I entertained it. What if I missed my flight and was stranded in a strange city?
That settled that. I was driving my self there.  Florida to Ohio?  No big deal..  20 hours.. two days.  And if I stay overnight at a hotel with a pool?  Bonus points.

Once there I was completely put at ease.  My fellow attendees  became friends by the end of the weekend. I over heard in conversation. “Oh, that’s Mary. She’s intrepid, she drove all the way here from Florida.”
Laughing out loud for real.. I thought if you only knew.. driving was the easy way out!  I was terrified to get here any other way!!

Whoa there! Replace the Negative!!  That was an unsolicited compliment. She thinks I am fearless!
Who am I to dispute that?  Just say Thank you. That’s all. Don’t question it. If I don’t tell her the reality.. she will never know I am not intrepid. That is who she sees. I am the only one who sees the panicky, shy, timid, Mary.

This will be the third year I have attended the Annual Workshop. My third annual road trip.   I can’t wait to be intrepid again.

Be afrayedknot

Build a Line Challenge Part 3… the final reveal. . .

Or maybe just April Fools…

Aren’t those baby blue’s  of Sammy Kat’s gorgeous? Don’t ya feel like you could stare into those eyes and see his soul?  We’ve done a lot of soul searching for the Build a Line Challenge Master Class, facilitated by Brenda Sue Landsdowne of BSueBoutiques.com.

At least I have.  Many of the subjects covered were expected. Pricing, branding, styles of design.
There were a couple at least that had me tossing and turning way into the middle of the night. I really did not expect that this exercise could have me examining myself. I am grateful for the experience. Brenda is a wonderful instructor. I surely didn’t anticipate gaining such insight to my motivation and discovering what I really want to do with my work.

The first blog was reasonably easy.   I had mine completed days earlier than the deadline as I was going to visit my sister. With out computer access for 10 days, I knew I had to have everything ready before leaving.

For the second blog I managed to bring it in just in time! Oh was I really dreading the hop on that one…We have some amazingly talented writers in this group. This created a major challenge for me. I  really felt pressure to “measure” up.   It is totally a self inflicted condition. No one makes me feel as though I am not good enough.. I do it to myself.

And here now.. the 11th hour before this blog is published and I am fighting tears and panic attacks.  Ugh..  There is nothing so hard required, nothing I haven’t done before. The panic.. the emptiness where thoughts and ideas should be  is not new for me. A kind of  performance anxiety.   And now just admitting the problem is making me feel so much better.

 

The first topic that really gave me pause to think was the question: Hobbyist, Maker or Designer.  I know what I wanted  the answer to be. I also knew that by not being honest with myself I was never going to grow.
I am a Hobbyist.

I do not enjoy production, making duplicates.  I cannot do custom orders or special requests.  I block up, waste time and dawdle until the deadline. Mostly it causes me discomfort.  I have come to realize I love this process of makering  too much to allow it to make me uncomfortable.  I have to find within myself a happy medium.

The next module that made me sit up and think was the one labeled Getting in the way of your own productivity.  Was that written just for me, or what!  I can find a million and 1 ways to waste time. Yanno how a little kid pushes the food around on his plate when he really isn’t eating it?  .. Yeah… my signature move.  I start moving brass all around the table.. back into  it’s storage box and out again.  if there is pressure!!  When I am makering just for the fun of it with no deadline, no comparison to anyone elses creations or just cause..  I can sit an create for hours.  The module on business plans that followed was particularly meaningful.   Realistic goals. You cant get there if you dont know where you are going.

I did not complete 5 pieces of Jewelry to finish the Challenge.  I know I am not eligible for any consideration of prizes.  But I am a winner.  This wonderful class has set the seeds for me to know what it will take to put my dreams of a successful business into action. A plan. Creating my brand. How styles  and trends effect fashion accessories. Oh so many things I didn’t know I didn’t know!!
I did succeed in a personal goal.  I learned,  by finding a gladness in every circumstance I have the power to become more content in my life. This Straw Bonnet attitude   has made me more optimistic in general.  I smile more, frown less.

I am so very glad I discovered I don’t want to ever stop loving sitting at my workbench and “puttering around”.  One day I will come to terms with sharing my work with the group.  When this becomes stressful or uncomfortable it is time to walk away.

And now that the pressure is off.. I will skip back to my little corner and maker again.  I will probably finish (or start) my Straw Bonnet collection. It still makes me smile.

Thank you to Brenda Sue Landsdowne, and the judges for all your hard work. I appreciate everything you have done for us.   Thank you also to the class participants, and to the blog readers.  Please… continue on down and see the reveals of my class mates lines..

Brenda Sue Lansdowne Jewelry Making Outside the Box

http://www.bsueboutiques.typepad.com

Diana Buynak Butterfly Emporium Ceramic Studio

http://butterflyemporium.indiemade.com/blog

 

Irene Hoffman, Heart’s Dezire by Irene

http://heartsdezirebyirene.wordpress.com

 

Clare Wells Nemeth, Creative Magick

http://www.craftingmagick.blogspot.com

 

Mary Reckmeyer, Afrayed Not

http://www.afrayedknot.net

 

Marcia Tuzzolino, Aurora Designs

http://auroradesignsjewelryblog.me

 

Elizabeth Wilks, Wearable Art by Lizzie

http://wearableartbylizzie.blogspot.com

 

Jeanette Rose Belmont, One Canvas At A Time

http://www.onecanvasatatime.com

 

Lyn Joy Reeve, A Journey From Jewels To Jubilation

http://lnreeve00.blogspot.com

 

Beth Trubman, The Journey of Jewelry

http://thejourneyofjewelry.blogspot.com

 

Carole Carlson, Bead Sophisticate

http://beadsophisticate.wordpress.com

 

Jann Tague, Clever Designs by Jann

http://janntague.wordpress.com

 

Shari Gardner, SLG Jewelry Designs

http://slgdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Susan Bolton, Fern’s Place

http://www.fernsplace.org

 

Chris Kemp, Noodle Pie Bracelets

http://noodlepiebracelets.com

 

Susan Bowerman, Woodside Wireworks

http://woodsidewireworks.com/

 

Pamela Anger, Novegatti Designs

http://novegattidesigns.blogspot.com

 

Joan Donovan, Hailey’s Cottage

http://haileyscottage.com/

 

Alison Huie, Ally’s Baubles

http://www.allysbaubles.blogspot.com

 

Sharon Palac, Sharon’s Jewelry Garden

http://www.sharonsjewelrygarden.blogspot.com

 

Erica Olmos, Beeb’s Closet

https://beebscloset.wordpress.com

 

Erin Whitacre, Shattered Time Jewelry

https://shatteredtimejewelry.wordpress.com

 

Fran Sitton, Sitton Up Front

https://sittonupfront.wordpress.com

 

Ginger Hammond, Lynn Leigh Designs

https://lynnleighdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Paula Gaskill, Lovely LaylaBug Jewels

http://www.lovelylaylabugjewels.com/Blog.php

 

Mary Deis, The Rose Sword

http://theroseswordmdeis.blogspot.com

 

Renee Webb Allen, Small Stuff Design

http://smallstuffdesign.com

 

Valerie Tilghman, ArtJewelsandGifts

http://www.artjewelzdimensions.blogspot.com

 

Chris Cravens, Vintage Cravens

http://christinecravens.blogspot.com

 

Leslie Carver, Adorn Divine Designs

http://www.adorndivinedesigns.blogspot.com

 

Donna Parry, JewelryDonna

http://jewelrydonna.typepad.com

 

Gina-Marie Hammer, Tangles, Twists and Treasures

http://tanglestwistsandtreasures.com/blog/

 

Kelly Wymer, Winged Wisdom Enchantments

https://wingedwisdomenchantments.wordpress.com/

 

Build a Line Master Challenge Class Part 2

That just makes me smile!

I hope my Brass Straw Bonnet line will bring a smile too.

 We are two thirds the way through our journey.. the Master Class taught by Brenda Landsdowne. She is the driving force behind BSueboutiqes.com. Her supply business has the best brass components and other multi media materials. She has had a very successful jewelry line in the past, and is working alongside us all to bring a new line to market.

When we set upon a journey we focus strongly on the destination . Through the years I often considered that I just wanted to be there… looking at the process of getting there as an irritating inconvenience.  Realizing I was missing many rich experiences by wishing away my time spent in travel, I have learned to appreciate the adventure.

 Just as with my travels, I am enjoying this journey with my classmates. We have discussed our design influences. I am working on making my own voice be heard.

Early in the class we worked on photo collages. Photography is essential to your brand and your image, if you are not selling in person in shows. Your presentation represents your style, and the quality of your goods. Editing and finishing your pictures are as important as finishing touches on your jewelry.

Will this remain a hobby?  Will I become a Maker? Could I go to Production Designer? The answers to all those questions are not  easy for me to come by. I am learning in this class there are so many elements to consider.

 

Sammy Kat and I spend a lot of time staring out at the road.. thinking about our next destination.. but knowing how we choose to get there is just as important.

Be knotafrayed.

Please hop on down thru the blogs of our fearless leader, Brenda and all the other talented artists who are taking this class with me.

Brenda Sue Lansdowne Jewelry Making Outside the Box

http://www.bsueboutiques.typepad.com

 

Diana Buynak Butterfly Emporium Ceramic Studio

http://butterflyemporium.indiemade.com/blog

 

Irene Hoffman, Heart’s Dezire by Irene

http://www.heartsdezirebyirene.com

 

Clare Wells Nemeth, Creative Magick

http://www.craftingmagick.blogspot.com

 

Mary Reckmeyer, Afrayed Not

http://www.afrayedknot.net

 

Marcia Tuzzolino, Aurora Designs

http://auroradesignsjewelryblog.me

 

Elizabeth Wilks, Wearable Art by Lizzie

http://wearableartbylizzie.blogspot.com

 

Jeanette Rose Belmont, One Canvas At A Time

http://www.onecanvasatatime.com

 

Lyn Joy Reeve, A Journey From Jewels To Jubilation

http://lnreeve00.blogspot.com

 

Belinda Reed-Ingle, Vogue Rocks

http://voguerocks.blogspot.com

 

Beth Trubman, The Journey of Jewelry

http://thejourneyofjewelry.blogspot.com

 

Carole Carlson, Bead Sophisticate

http://beadsophisticate.wordpress.com

 

Jann Tague, Clever Designs by Jann

http://janntague.wordpress.com

 

Shari Gardner, SLG Jewelry Designs

http://slgdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Susan Bolton, Fern’s Place

http://www.fernsplace.org

 

Chris Kemp, Noodle Pie Bracelets

http://noodlepiebracelets.com

 

Barbara Kelley, Angels’ Keep

http://angelskeepbandbdotcom.wordpress.com

 

Susan Bowerman, Woodside Wireworks

http://woodsidewireworks.com/

 

Pamela Anger, Novegatti Designs

http://novegattidesigns.blogspot.com

 

Joan Donovan, Hailey’s Cottage

http://haileyscottage.com/

 

Alison Huie, Ally’s Baubles

http://www.allysbaubles.blogspot.com

 

Sharon Palac, Sharon’s Jewelry Garden

http://www.sharonsjewelrygarden.blogspot.com

 

Erica Olmos, Beeb’s Closet

https://beebscloset.wordpress.com

 

Erin Whitacre, Shattered Time Jewelry

https://shatteredtimejewelry.wordpress.com

 

Fran Sitton, Sitton Up Front

https://sittonupfront.wordpress.com

 

Ginger Hammond, Lynn Leigh Designs

https://lynnleighdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Paula Gaskill, Lovely LaylaBug Jewels

http://www.lovelylaylabugjewels.com/Blog.php

 

Mary Deis, The Rose Sword

http://theroseswordmdeis.blogspot.com

 

Renee Webb Allen, Small Stuff Design

http://smallstuffdesign.com

 

Valerie Tilghman, ArtJewelsandGifts

http://www.artjewelzdimensions.blogspot.com

 

Chris Cravens, Vintage Cravens

http://christinecravens.blogspot.com

 

Leslie Carver, Adorn Divine Designs

http://www.adorndivinedesigns.blogspot.com

 

Donna Parry, JewelryDonna

http://jewelrydonna.typepad.com

 

Gina-Marie Hammer, Tangles, Twists and Treasures

http://tanglestwistsandtreasures.com/blog/

 

Kelly Wymer, Winged Wisdom Enchantments

https://wingedwisdomenchantments.wordpress.com/

Ain’t one of ’em a problem

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We all have challenges.  The path to our goals will have many obstacles facing us.

When we face our challenges and obstacles we do so with motivation. We get fired up, ready to do battle and inspired to defeat our foe.

If we view them as problems,  we are already defeated. To consider we have a problem is a negative mindset.

What if we were to find a gladness in every situation?  Pollyanna found her joy in the “glad game” She would find a gladness in every situation she encountered. Starting with a gift of crutches, when she had been hoping for a doll, Pollyanna, with her father’s help chooses to be glad for the crutches. Glad that she doesn’t need them.

Optimism and joyful thoughts are replacing my doubts and fears.

I choose to be glad for my distracted, chaotic mindset that takes me jumping from thought to thought… connecting things that no one else would likely see a connection in.

 

Tomorrow we start 2016 Build a Line Master Class Challenge.

Thank you to Donna Parry, for reminding me to let obstacles be an inspiration and motivation. Sometimes when you are distracted from your path you find the greatest accomplishments.

It is the Deficit in my Attention that has led me to my Art of  Distraction.

Be Afrayedknot

Build a Line Challenge and Master Class

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“Mary is her own worst enemy.”

That phrase has turned up on  high school and college report cards, employer reviews, and even a letter of reference.

I drafted my application to the class many times. I edited, rewrote it and started over many times.You might have thought it was a PhD thesis. In the end what I submitted was a paragraph and a half of run on sentences and unfinished thoughts.  I was accepted!!  Maybe, just maybe I demand too much of myself, and I am my own worst enemy.

My struggles with Attention Deficit make me pretty  good at the unfinished. I have have started projects all over the house. Scrapbooking, painting and jewelry designs. To apply for this challenge, I had to trust myself that I will finish. Aside from completing 5 prototype pieces for a line of jewelry there will be 3 blog hops.  Kind of like a semester report in High School. Something I failed miserably at.
But I have been working at techniques to work with my distracted mind instead of against it.  Learning why I lose interest in a project has helped me to stay on task.

I am so excited to begin this endeavor! I will be sitting in the virtual classroom along side  very talented jewelry designers. We will be discussing fashion trends, how to design a cohesive line and branding.

This class will make me better. At design, recognizing trends, branding.. and maybe just maybe I will learn to  love my creative self, and stop being my own enemy.

Being Afraidknot

Abandoning fear

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I have discovered bravery is not  about proceeding with out fear. Courage is proceeding despite the fear.  Last May, I hopped into my little car and drove a bit more than a thousand miles to meet some people who previously had only existed in a box on top of my desk. Christi Friesen, world renown polymer clay artist was offering a weekend of classes. Bohemian Vibe, sponsored by Brenda Sue Landsdowne of BSueboutiques.com. Of course, I already felt as though these women were my best friends. I’d logged quite a few hours watching them in their instructional videos on youtube.  Both, very down to earth and easy to like.  I was among the first to reserve my place at the retreat. If I hesitated at all the fear would win and my weekend would turn into a huge regret.

I have decided this year to schedule in my creativity breaks. Just as I fill my calendar with work hours, gym time, and other obligations I need to put into my schedule creativity sessions. It is all to easy to sit at the computer Crushing Candy when I need to be productive. I know I am capable. I just have to stop giving into procrastination and distraction. I’ve spent the last two days reorganizing my work space and clearing my head so I may visualize what I intend to work on. This is my year.I’m going to use the same self discipline  that has helped me stay with a workout routine, eat healthier. The next project is “me time”. By  inking it into my routine the time becomes dedicated to my art.

And I had so much fun in Ohio I am planning on going again. I cant way to see Brenda, Donna, and all the gang. It is so rewarding when artists share ideas and best practices. We all save ourselves so much time by sharing our experience, what works… what doesn’t. You might think that  a group of artists all interested in marketing their art would be more proprietary about their knowledge and techniques. This group is amazing. We all grow together.  It’s pretty neat how it works… when you share what you have you wind up getting what you need.

Be Afrayedknot.

Days of Future Passed

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I spent the first couple days of the New Year with a walk down memory lane. While considering the future and all the possibilities available to me, I realized how easy it is to become chained to the past.

I am a member of a FaceBook group who’s members have ties to a small town in New England. Often we talk about past experiences, residents or places of note.  Every now again there is a squawker about how things aren’t the same. The town has changed. Things are no longer as they were in retrospect. These comments are made in a negative manner as though time should stand still.

I find my self being frustrated by these comments, but really can’t find a pleasant way to explain – Nothing stays the same… things evolve. There are some good changes and some not so good… but the only consistency in life is how fast things change.
Just as when we were young and thought we ruled the world, we wanted transformation. We changed musical history, created technology, invented, designed new clothing styles and tore down the old and built the new. We innovated.

And now the young people continue to innovate and evolve and change. The older generations continue to shake their heads and say things have changed.

I do my best to embrace technology. I stay connected with social media. Learn how things work. I try to keep up. It keeps me young. But most of all it keeps me independent. The more flexible I become and the more I embrace technology and keep up with the new and the changes the better I am at adapting to my world and remaining relevant. I truly hope as you age you refuse to become bitter at how things change. You may have been that fresh faced kid watching that Elvis guy swivel his hips while the parents declared it an indecency. Perhaps you enjoyed classic rock while  the old folks lamented the end of the swing era.

You changed the world once… it isn’t going to stop changing. Open your mind and your heart.

This Year It Will Be Different

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My mother loved Christmas. She gracefully hosted a houseful of her kids and their kids. There were piles of gifts under the tree. The “good” china came out of the closet and the linen table cloth was used.

Mom loved to cook, it never seemed an effort for her to put out a meal for 12 or 15, however many showed up, got fed. And they were well fed. With all of us around the table there was always laughter

Everyone would gather in the living room, we would exchange gifts. It was just as much fun to ooh and ahh over what every one else received as it was to open your own packages.
Well Into my 40’s I still looked forward to the holiday with the excitement of a child waiting for Santa. Every bit of her condo decorated, the table set just so, it was, well, it was Christmas!

Having taken over hosting Christmas since my Mom died it just never seemed to have the same magical feeling to it.

For various reasons this year, some having to do with changing employment, my children opted out of a gift exchange. Now, mind you, my children are in their 30’s and 20’s.. It wasn’t like telling a kid the truth about Santa.. but that’s exactly how I felt.

Initially I was in denial  I was pretty sure they were going to come to their senses.  One of them would call and say it was all a joke. Just Kidding.

Then I became angry with these kids, who did they think they were anyway… I can buy you gifts if I want to! And you can just take them too! So what if you choose not to shop for me..  you are gonna take what I give you and be happy damn it.

Then I tried to cajole them into it. It’ll be okay.. just a couple small gifts.. nothing like last year.   You don’t have to exchange gifts… just take the ones I get for you.

I cried, not because of what I wouldn’t get, but because of  what I couldn’t give.

The day came,  my children and my siblings arrived. Family.  My sister brought Hula Hoops, and Paddle Balls.It was fun remembering how great mom was  at paddle ball. I even went out into the front yard to see if I could keep the Hula Hoop  up off  the ground.  Not so much.

I realized the gift exchange had nothing at all to do with presents.

It really was about taking time to focus on each other. The love that went into choosing the perfect token to carefully wrap and then present to a parent or sibling or child. It was about watching someones face to see their expression as they unwrapped something you had especially chosen for them. It was the time taken to thank someone for thinking of you.

Next year it will be different. Whether we have a gift exchange or not, I will not spend so much time fussing in the kitchen. I won’t be agonizing over making sure every side dish comes out of the oven at the same time for culinary perfection. After dinner I am going to linger over dessert and lottery scratch tickets.  Who cares if the dishes get washed now or later.  So what if I don’t get the casserole covered and in the fridge.   Next year… I will take the time to sit with all of my family and simply appreciate  and enjoy being together because

it’s all about the presence.

Executive Function

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It sounds a bit like a group of people in suits having cocktails, but Executive Function is the core of your every day life.   A mental process, EF is the set of cognitive skills that keeps you on time, organized and in control of your life. When there is Executive Function Disorder,even simple tasks can become immensely difficult.  EF is independent of intelligence. Individuals can have extremely high intellect and low functioning mental processes that control planning, time management, organization and impulse.

Almost every one at sometime has had “doorway amnesia”-  when you walk into a room and cant remember what you came in for. Faced with a transition, your working memory has moved on and forgotten that thought, once you passed through the door, Someone with EF may struggle to write a phone number or address down as it is rattled off to them. Your working memory holds multiple pieces of information as you are manipulating them. Except, when it isn’t working. For most, distraction comes with a sudden loud noise, or an unexpected movement, something shiny. I can be distracted by my own thoughts.  Trying to count anything usually results in something like this: 2,4,6,8 ( I wonder if I ate that banana this morning) 16, 18, 20, (oh in 20 minutes I need to get on that conference call) 32…. “oh crap! where was I??”

You see how that could be a challenge.

If you ask an adult with Executive Function Disorder  to clean their apartment, or desk, or task them with organizing a cluttered mess,  it can be akin to making the request to a 3 year old. With out the cognitive skills to break the project into manageable chunks it will quickly become overwhelming. If you ask a 3 year old child to clean his room with out simple direction you can reasonably expect to find him playing with his toys when you check on him in 5 or 10 minutes.  I spend a lot of time playing with my toys.

In essence EF is your command center, The processes that work together to let you plan, organize, estimate the time a task takes, your mood and emotion, working memory, and impulse control all function with in each other and at times overlap.

Not having an appropriate braking system on your impulses can lead to substance abuse or other compulsions which often go hand in hand with Attention Deficit Disorder, or EFD. It is difficult to see the consequences of an action even when your intellect is telling you otherwise. It is like the old joke of having the devil sitting on one shoulder and an angel on the other.

Ironically the suggested tips for coping with EFD are the very same skills I have difficulty with. Recommending to me that I remove clutter and become better organized is a moot point. This is why I am researching strategies to cope with EFD, I have no organizational skills.

But the understanding that this is a neurological disorder is helping me to know, finally know.. I am not lazy. I am not incompetent. I just  need to find better strategies to keep myself on task.

Be Afrayedknot

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Build a Line Challenge B’Sueboutiques.com Part 1

 

 I see you’ve met Sammy Kat, my sidekick. He is a jewel thief extraordinaire.

This is the first of 3 blog hops sponsored by BSueBoutiques.com    We are particpants in a  Master Class, facilitated by Brenda Sue Landsdowne.  Long before Brenda had her supply site on the internet she was the designer of a very successful line of jewelry.

Aren’t we the lucky ones?   We are learning the ins and outs of bringing a successful line to market from some one with first hand experience.

I love a journey.. whether it is a trip into the past thru research or a bona fide road trip.  This peek in to the past has brought me from Egypt to France, Italy,  all about Europe, a detour thru Hollywood, and back to France.

  I have enjoyed wandering thru the history of  jewelry from many different eras and never left my living room.

Understanding and respecting  the techniques which have stood the test of time and how the old masters continue to influence modern styles is important.

We are learning the importance of a cohesive look to your line. I need to work on that. I’m pretty much all over the map.

The theme I chose for my line utilizes the Straw Bonnet brass stamping. This stamping always makes me smile, whether I see it as a sun bonnet, worn at a day at the beach,  as a head covering while tending a garden, or a finishing touch to the outfit worn by a county woman out on the town. For me this bonnet embodies the gladness of Pollyanna.   I hope I can bring about that feeling in my jewelry line.

No matter how far I stray, I always wind up back here, at the messy desk putting together things that make me happy.

Please won’t you continue the blog hop by clicking on the links below.

We would appreciate a comment on our blogs to know you were here.

Enjoy

Brenda Sue Lansdowne Jewelry Making Outside the Box

http://www.bsueboutiques.typepad.com

 

Diana Buynak Butterfly Emporium Ceramic Studio

http://butterflyemporium.indiemade.com/blog

 

Irene Hoffman, Heart’s Dezire by Irene

http://www.heartsdezirebyirene.com

 

Clare Wells Nemeth, Creative Magick

http://www.craftingmagick.blogspot.com

 

Mary Reckmeyer, Afrayed Not

http://www.afrayedknot.net

 

Marcia Tuzzolino, Aurora Designs

http://auroradesignsjewelryblog.me

 

Elizabeth Wilks, Wearable Art by Lizzie

http://wearableartbylizzie.blogspot.com

 

Jeanette Rose Belmont, One Canvas At A Time

http://www.onecanvasatatime.com

 

Lyn Joy Reeve, A Journey From Jewels To Jubilation

http://lnreeve00.blogspot.com

 

Belinda Reed-Ingle, Vogue Rocks

http://voguerocks.blogspot.com

 

Beth Trubman, The Journey of Jewelry

http://thejourneyofjewelry.blogspot.com

 

Carole Carlson, Bead Sophisticate

http://beadsophisticate.wordpress.com

 

Jann Tague, Clever Designs by Jann

http://janntague.wordpress.com

 

Shari Gardner, SLG Jewelry Designs

http://slgdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Susan Bolton, Fern’s Place

http://www.fernsplace.org

 

Chris Kemp, Noodle Pie Bracelets

http://noodlepiebracelets.com

 

Barbara Kelley, Angels’ Keep

http://angelskeepbandbdotcom.wordpress.com

 

Susan Bowerman, Woodside Wireworks

http://woodsidewireworks.com/

 

Pamela Anger, Novegatti Designs

http://novegattidesigns.blogspot.com

 

Joan Donovan, Hailey’s Cottage

http://haileyscottage.com/

 

Alison Huie, Ally’s Baubles

http://www.allysbaubles.blogspot.com

 

Sharon Palac, Sharon’s Jewelry Garden

http://www.sharonsjewelrygarden.blogspot.com

 

Erica Olmos, Beeb’s Closet

https://beebscloset.wordpress.com

 

Erin Whitacre, Shattered Time Jewelry

https://shatteredtimejewelry.wordpress.com

 

Fran Sitton, Sitton Up Front

https://sittonupfront.wordpress.com

 

Ginger Hammond, Lynn Leigh Designs

https://lynnleighdesigns.wordpress.com

 

Paula Gaskill, Lovely LaylaBug Jewels

http://www.lovelylaylabugjewels.com/Blog.php

 

Mary Deis, The Rose Sword

http://theroseswordmdeis.blogspot.com

 

Renee Webb Allen, Small Stuff Design

http://smallstuffdesign.com

 

Valerie Tilghman, ArtJewelsandGifts

http://www.artjewelzdimensions.blogspot.com

 

Chris Cravens, Vintage Cravens

http://christinecravens.blogspot.com

 

Leslie Carver, Adorn Divine Designs

http://www.adorndivinedesigns.blogspot.com

 

Donna Parry, JewelryDonna

http://jewelrydonna.typepad.com

 

Gina-Marie Hammer, Tangles, Twists and Treasures

http://tanglestwistsandtreasures.com/blog/

 

Kelly Wymer, Winged Wisdom Enchantments

https://wingedwisdomenchantments.wordpress.com/

Ain’t one of ’em a problem

We all have challenges.  The path to our goals will have many obstacles facing us.

When we face our challenges and obstacles we do so with motivation. We get fired up, ready to do battle and inspired to defeat our foe.

If we view them as problems,  we are already defeated. To consider we have a problem is a negative mindset.

What if we were to find a gladness in every situation?  Pollyanna found her joy in the “glad game” She would find a gladness in every situation she encountered. Starting with a gift of crutches, when she had been hoping for a doll, Pollyanna, with her father’s help chooses to be glad for the crutches. Glad that she doesn’t need them.

Optimism and joyful thoughts are replacing my doubts and fears.

I choose to be glad for my distracted, chaotic mindset that takes me jumping from thought to thought… connecting things that no one else would likely see a connection in.

 

Tomorrow we start 2016 Build a Line Master Class Challenge.

Thank you to Donna Parry, for reminding me to let obstacles be an inspiration and motivation. Sometimes when you are distracted from your path you find the greatest accomplishments.

It is the Deficit in my Attention that has led me to my Art of  Distraction.

Be Afrayedknot

Build a Line Challenge and Master Class

“Mary is her own worst enemy.”

That phrase has turned up on  high school and college report cards, employer reviews, and even a letter of reference.

I drafted my application to the class many times. I edited, rewrote it and started over many times.You might have thought it was a PhD thesis. In the end what I submitted was a paragraph and a half of run on sentences and unfinished thoughts.  I was accepted!!  Maybe, just maybe I demand too much of myself, and I am my own worst enemy.

My struggles with Attention Deficit make me pretty  good at the unfinished. I have have started projects all over the house. Scrapbooking, painting and jewelry designs. To apply for this challenge, I had to trust myself that I will finish. Aside from completing 5 prototype pieces for a line of jewelry there will be 3 blog hops.  Kind of like a semester report in High School. Something I failed miserably at.
But I have been working at techniques to work with my distracted mind instead of against it.  Learning why I lose interest in a project has helped me to stay on task.

I am so excited to begin this endeavor! I will be sitting in the virtual classroom along side  very talented jewelry designers. We will be discussing fashion trends, how to design a cohesive line and branding.

This class will make me better. At design, recognizing trends, branding.. and maybe just maybe I will learn to  love my creative self, and stop being my own enemy.

Being Afraidknot